Simply add this to your .rspec instead:

--require spec_helper

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If you are on rspec >= 3 and use a rails_helper.rb require this instead of the spec_helper:

--require rails_helper

If you are using parallel_tests and this is not working for you, .rspec might be ignored. Try using a .rspec_parallel file.